20 Things to consider when it’s not going as planned

  1. Always be kind when you are trying to be strong.
  2. Make sure you notice that other people are sometimes selfish assholes, even though they do really care.
  3. Maybe your maybe is a maybe, really, really.
  4. There is no need to stop sleeping.
  5. And then, again, you are made of golden light and a little bit of chocolate.
  6. Send off kisses and see if they return with any sort of zestiness.
  7. Become fierce when you feel like you want to fit in.
  8. Offer always with both hands and notice your emptiness.
  9. Notice the intensity and take it as a sign that “something will happen.”
  10. Surrender Dorothy and Toto too.
  11. Craft the perfect then go for shitty.
  12. Burn down the barn and then stand in wonder.
  13. Delight, if there is delight never dreaming it will end, ever.
  14. Become swept away by tea induced meandering stories.
  15. Proudly declare: “This mess is all because of me.”
  16. Stop, just stop, and then run as fast as you can in the opposite direction.
  17. Keep your eyes tightly shut, encouraging imaginings that have not a wit to do with reality.
  18. Recall how your body responds when anyone plays the flute and plan accordingly.
  19. You are you, that is enough of a riddle, please don’t feel you need to solve more than that.
  20. The end is the beginning.

Bainbridge Island | July 16, 2025

What to say when the Truth is hard to name

Say the two kitten sisters will live forever side by side even though they occasionally try to wrestle the other into submission.

Say it’s OK to be biting, wrestling, absolutely free.

Say the feeling of the moment is taking your breath away,  melting your heart even while it is crushing your pride and demanding you surrender.

Say to yourself.  Simply surrender, go free.

Say you do not feel financial lack even though nothing is certain and all your safety nets are untended, full of holes.

Say you are whole, complete event though  you know not how to reconcile the reality of what IS with either of these concepts.

Say you have a plan even though you know with absolute certainty that you do not have any inkling of ANY actions that might fit together in a sequence of possibility leading to an outcome.

Say you are OK.

Say it’s hilarious.

Say that eating dinner simply, without fanfare together with eyes focused on the future is enough.

Bainbridge Island | July 16, 2025